Sex, Love & Relationships

Whit’s Wisdom: He’s Just Not That Into You

Image credit: He's Just Not That Into You (2009)

Image credit: He’s Just Not That Into You (2009)

Are you in that grey area as and when you don’t know where you stand with a guy?

It happens to the best of us ladies and sometimes the truth is, he’s just not that into you.

I know it can be disheartening, but try not to let it reflect who you are. Don’t make it an issue about yourself. It’s okay that someone isn’t into you and it does not lessen your value or your bad word, just move on!

Thank God for growth because nowadays I can usually discern when a guy is into me and when he’s not. It doesn’t take long, you just have recognize the signs.

7 Ways You Can Tell That It’s Time to Move On:

1. Lack of Communication
He doesn’t call or text or he doesn’t call or text back in a decent time frame. Any man that wants you, wants to communicate with you. Even if it’s as simple as seeing how your day went. (Note: If you’re initiating most of the calls and texts it’s also time to move on because that’s not cool either.)

2. No Plans or Dates
He hasn’t asked you out or doesn’t involve you in his plans. That’s simple enough. Anyone that wants you is gonna want to be in your presence at some point and I’m not talking about the “let’s chill” visits at your house or at his. At some point you want to get out of the house, right?

3. Avoidance
When you call, he hurries off the phone. When you text it’s dry. It’s called avoidance. Why even bother any further? Refer back to #1.

4. Excuse
“My dog was sick, so I couldn’t answer my phone”. Ridiculousness at it’s best. Come on ladies.

5. bad word is the #1 Topic
You randomly text and say, “wyd,” and his response is “thinking about you joining me in the shower.” If that’s the basis of your conversation then that’s the basis of your relationship or that’s what he’s trying to make it. If that’s not what you want, cut it off! Otherwise, are you joining him in the shower or nah?

6. The Announcement
Guys will usually announce what they want in the beginning (especially if you inquire) by saying “I’m not looking for a relationship” or “I just want a friend.” Listen to that and don’t try to change it because you can’t! It’s up to you if you want to embark on that journey.

7. He Means What He Says
Guys aren’t THAT deep. I mean I know some deep guys but usually you can take what they say for face value. Refer back to #6. They usually mean what they say. No need to read beyond that.

My advice overall is for you to pray for discernment. Trust your

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, listen to the signs and act accordingly. You’ll be saving yourself a lot of time, energy and disappointment.

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