“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Thomas Edison is famous for that quote. I’m amazed at his tenacity to try at something 10,000 times and not give up, it was like rejection fueled him! Many of us don’t see rejection as a fuel or positive reinforcement. But we all experience it at some point in our lives. Whether its college applications, jobs, or relationships, rejection happens.
Rejection is a part of life you cannot control. But what you can control is your fear of it. You can control your reaction to it. You can control how it affects you.
Fear of rejection stops many people from taking a chance as and when in actuality, there’s no chance if you don’t take it! In the words of Dwight D. Eisenhower, “A bold heart is half the battle.” After you have put yourself out there for a new job or position, or after you’ve told someone how you feel, you should feel courageous and relieved.
Think about how many people missed out on opportunities just because they didn’t have the balls to TRY.
If you did go for it and take the chance, then kudos to you because now you get the answers to your questions: Can I? Will you? Am I? Regardless of how that question is answered, you can have peace. People who fail never tried, or they just gave up. When you have your answer you can let go of the worry and wonder and move on to the next opportunity.
Most people think if we hear a no it’s the end of the world. “No” is not the end; it’s the beginning of another chance or another opportunity to hear a yes! There’s a Chinese proverb that says “fall seven times, stand up eight.” That’s the correct reaction to rejection, just keep it moving.
You can control how rejection affects you by looking at it in a positive light. Michael Jordan said, “Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” If you look at rejection as an opportunity or a stepping stone you will have the recipe for being successful. The most successful people don’t give up. Successful people get rejected more than unsuccessful people because they’re not afraid to try. Rejection will never stop you from getting what you desire if you conquer it.
Keep pressing and be a reject!
It is noted in The Holy Bible, in the first chapter of the Book of John, that Jesus Christ came to His own people and His own people rejected Him. But He is still worshipped and reverenced today by many people all around the world.
Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. He is now a member NBA Hall of Fame.
Walt Disney was fired by a news editor cause he “lacked imagination”.
KFC’s Colonel Sanders is said to have been turned down 1009 times before he got a yes to use his recipe for chicken. (He started out with $105 by the way.)
Theodor Seuss Giesel, the creator of Dr. Seuss books, was rejected by 27 different publishers. There is now a Dr. Suess week that’s called “Read Across America”.