One of my close friends and I talk about this all the time. You know that person who devotes every single Facebook status to their “bae” or that person who uploads nothing but photos of them and their boo?
We’ve always said that those people do that because they’re trying to convince themselves that everything is good because somewhere in their relationship, they aren’t very secure.
For anyone who thought my friend and I were hating, it looks like there may be some truth to our theory!
According to a new study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, people who found the need to constantly (key word) make their social media friends aware of their romantic life felt less secure in their relationship. The three part study investigated the psychological factors that drive relationship visibility on Facebook. The study said that:
“On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible (Study 3).”
I’ve been crazy in love before and I’ve had moments when I’ve wanted to share it with the world, but I had to stop and check myself.
I asked, “Why am I showing it? What do I have to prove?” The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to protect my love and keep his identity to myself as much as I could. Then there’s always the “what if it doesn’t last?” and then having to delete everything LOL. I vowed that I wouldn’t post a photo with any guy that I’m dating (no matter who he is or what he has) until he became my husband…or at least my fiance’.
I know it seems extreme and who knows, I may change my mind later, but I think that the constant gushing is not necessarily because someone is in love. Sometimes it’s their attempt to make it appear that way because they have something to prove to the public.
Source: Madame Noire | Image: Shuttershock
What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree with the study?