Long time, no talk!
It seems like FOREVER since I last wrote a blog post that wasn’t required of me by a brand but I’m back (and hopefully won’t be taking another 30+ day break for a while).
If you follow me on social media then you already know why I’ve been MIA but if not don’t worry, I’ll fill you in soon enough. Besides the major reason I took a mini-hiatus, sometimes you just need a break. You feel me?
This world that we live in thrives on instant, 24/7 access to anything and everything we want. We don’t have to wait for stores to open, we can shop online. We don’t all have set work schedules, we’re often working into the wee hours of the morning or around the clock. Every idle moment that used to be reserved for silent meditation or relaxation has been replaced with mindless scrolling on social media or with our eyes glued to some device. If you are not intentional about it, you will find that you’ve failed to give yourself a break from the world. Mentally, emotionally and physically, we need periodic breaks to stay healthy.
So that’s what I did. I took a break…and I don’t feel bad for it.
As I get older, I understand more and more what people mean as and when they say that you have to take care of yourself before you do anything else. It’s true. You’re the only you that you have and once you’re burnt out, what’s next? To avoid the burn out, you have to take a break whenever and how ever often you need it. Of course I missed writing blog posts and interacting with my readers online in the various places that you all are active but I had to do it for me and mini-me *hint-hint* otherwise, I’d probably be in the hospital instead of relaxing in my bed as I type.
I was literally running myself in the ground trying to keep up my blog, be at every event someone expected me to show my face at and/or participate in, answer a million emails, be present at meetings all while literally being so physically exhausted and ill that I could hardly get out of bed some mornings. My work was suffering, my relationships with people were suffering and instead of letting everything completely fall apart I had to make an executive decision to put myself on a break from everything that didn’t involve me getting better, relaxing and doing what I needed to do to be stress-free.
At the end of the day, none of the people who are criticizing you for whatever reason because of things they don’t know or are assuming will be there when you burn yourself out and are left to pick of the pieces from the damage. (Pieces being starting over, closing a business and going in a new direction career-wise, repairing damaged relationships etc.) Therefore you have to take charge of your life and take those breaks to take care of your most precious and time-sensitive blessing – your life.
On the flip side, breaks can also set you up for better come backs. In my case, I’d been feeling a bit overwhelmed yet underwhelmed with my career as a public relations consultant. I’ve also been wanting something different from blogging so I’ve spent a lot of time these past few weeks to reevaluate my dreams and figure out what I really want out of life and how to do my part in achieving these things, whether tangible or intangible. There’s no way that I could’ve been or would’ve been in the right place to think about these things and be sure and unapologetic about the changes I want to (and will) make had I still been in the hustle and bustle of my former life.
Here’s what I learned and discovered during my break:
- I come up with my best ideas when I’m not trying to keep up with anyone else.
- It’s ok to share my ideas but I have to keep my best for myself sometimes.
- I do want to make my blog personal and relatable again BUT in a way that still keeps my privacy at a certain level. Sounds impossible, I know…but it can be done! Celebrities do it all the time.
- My focus isn’t so much on money (although I need it now more than ever LOL) as it is on delivering quality, consistent and interesting content.
- I don’t want to write about anything that doesn’t fulfill me and truly serve a purpose for my regular readers and supporters.
- I don’t want to be bothered with a bunch of services and products that no one is interested in buying – time to clean house!
- I don’t want to write about music or any non-female/family targeted entertainment on my website anymore – I’d rather do it for another publication behind the scenes or work directly with the artists.
- I don’t want to do interviews anymore – at all. I’ll only highlight people for special projects and content.
The list gets longer but I just wanted to share a little of how I’ve benefitted from my break and encourage you to do the same. I don’t work a traditional job so I had the flexibility to sort of shut down shop for awhile but I understand that everyone can’t do that. Your break doesn’t have to be drastic or as long as mine, it can simply be something you do on the weekends or a designated night of the week.
Let me know how it goes for ya! Until next time,