Immediately after I introduced my new submissions page, I had a reader request! I’m so happy everyone is responding to my blog and I’ve gathered that many of us enjoy reading and discussing relationships.
I don’t claim to be a relationship expert; I’ve got my own issues, BUT I do like talking about relationships and giving my two cents (when asked).
One of the first reader requests was a question about whether or not love is still alive.
The concept of relationships is changing so much, mostly because of society and culture changes. Full disclosure here… there are more types of relationships than romantic ones, but for the sake of this post I’m going to focus on romance.
First things first… what is love in the first place? Merriam-Webster defines love in several ways, but my favorite is “unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.” The key word (at least for me) is unselfish. In order to love someone, we have to put ourselves aside and I think therein lies the problem.
We are selfish by nature. We’re always taught to protect our hearts, that life is about survival of the fittest and that we have to look out for ourselves. This mentality breeds a selfish mind. In my opinion this is where cheating and dishonesty derives from – our selfish need to protect ourselves (whether we’re right or in the wrong) without even considering how it impacts the other person.
I said that to say that we complicate the concept of love by trying to give it so many traits and guidelines and as and when thinking about it that way, it’s easy to wonder if love is even alive because everyone isn’t going to fit the frame of what society paints love as.
I think it’s alive, but it is definitely on life support! Just my opinion…