For years, I’ve had a love-hate relationship with dating. I didn’t always have the best of luck with men, but I knew in the back of my mind that it would get better eventually. Things usually get better before they get worse anyway. Sometimes I look back on the pros and cons of dating (for me) and think about how they’ve shaped me for my present dating life.
A lot of us deal with so many trials and tribulations in the dating world.
I hated as and when guys would be dishonest with me about how many other ladies they were seeing. I wouldn’t trip about it as long as they didn’t lie. I also found all the games that some people play annoying. You’d go days without hearing from someone just so they’d seem “cool.” I hated feeling like I couldn’t text or call a guy when I wanted in fear of seeming “too clingy.” The idea of walking on eggshells instead of truly expressing my feelings was awful. I’m the type of person who likes to express herself. I love to hug people and tell them I care. Having to change who I was in fear of losing someone who probably wasn’t worth it anyway?
I definitely won’t miss that.
And who can forget the whole “title” debate? Some people say “What’s understood doesn’t have to be explained” and I call shenanigans. That’s a trick!
I like things to be explained and laid out on the line. Hell, we can write up a contract. I don’t want anything to come up four months later and the guy says, “We never said we’re exclusive.” NOPE. No, sir. I’ve had it happen to me and I’ve seen others talk about it happening to them. That is never fun.
However, there are some pros to dating. I like the idea of meeting someone new and getting to know them while engaging in a fun activity like bowling or – my personal favorite – having some food. I love talking to people and finding out things about them, so I try to think of interesting topics for conversation. I also love getting dolled up. I don’t do that like I used to and I feel amazing once the outfit is on and the makeup has been applied. Oh, and seeing the look on the guy’s face and getting complimented once he sees you is always awesome. It’s a wonderful confidence booster.
And, of course, a major pro of dating is getting in a relationship. Many prize the elusive relationship. It’s always nice to see people get together, but as I mentioned in last week’s post, there’s no need to give us every detail on social media. LOL!
I’m at the point now where I enjoy dating and I really like where things are going for me. There are some amazing people in this world and when you come across them, you’ll realize all the bad ones just make you appreciate the good ones.