In my short 29 years of life there’s one fact that I’ve come to learn and accept: as sure as you’ll live to see day after day, you’ll also see troubles in your life from time to time.
Of course it feels great to imagine our days consistently stress-free, picture perfect and easy but that’s not reality nor can I think back to any mantra, scripture or quote that promised us it would be that way. We can even “choose” to not let people, things and situations stress us out, but the possibility that they will or that those situations would even arise still remains.
So what do we do about it?
Let’s just say, although I’m young by some measures, I’ve had loads of experience with life’s troubles. I’m the type of person that spends a lot of time in deep thought about whatever I’m facing whether it be an emotional issue, a financial issue or even an issue with someone I love and care about. Over the years I’ve noticed a pattern as and when it comes to these issues – they always seem to pop up right before something great happens. Coincidence? Maybe. Lesson? Probably. Test? Absolutely.
Since I’ve been blogging about my pregnancy, I’ll share a quick story to put things into context.
When I first found out that I was pregnant, I literally became depressed. I’m talking about not getting out of bed for days, disappearing off the scene for weeks, avoiding my friends and family kinda depressed.
I’m currently in the home stretch with just a month and a week or so before my due date and I’m just now getting completely excited about meeting our little human. My depression stemmed from several reasons ranging from it happening right as I was in the planning stages of making a major life change that I’d been afraid to make for so long, to it happening out of the order I wanted it to (code for I wasn’t married).
I felt inconvenienced…blocked…possibly even stuck. I thought about all the things I’d no longer be able to do, places I wouldn’t be able to go, people I’d have to cut off, personal growth I’d have to make in an insanely short amount of time, money that I could no longer spend on what I wanted to spend it on, dreams I’d have to reconfigure and the list goes on.
In other words I was really selfish and I viewed becoming a mother as the ultimate obstacle to MY plans for my life.
But guess what happened? Can you really guess where I’m about to go with this?
My pregnancy experience has been the total opposite – and I’ll be sharing with you exactly how in an upcoming YouTube video so subscribe to my channel here. Until I release the video I’ll just say that my life has changed, which I knew it would, but none of the changes have been negative. Not a single one. In fact, I don’t think I would be the person I am today had I not experienced the initial hardship of being thrown such a monumental curve ball.
I love who I am because of this tough time that I faced. I’ve always wanted to be this woman but I needed something drastic to happen for me to get here. And that’s the message I want you to really absorb.
Tough times make us a lot of things and excited is usually no where in the mix. I want to challenge you to try to get excited, or at the very least, ready for what’s on the other side of those troubles. If you can just fight through them without giving up or taking the easy way out, you’ll be glad for those moments that helped to shape you and give you a story to tell to help someone else along the way.
I could’ve had an abortion and not have to face the challenges I’ve faced the past seven months but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. Some things you just have to deal with and they won’t be easy or comfortable but I promise you, they will turn out better than you ever expected them to.
Can you believe that for a second?
Face your tough times knowing that no matter how cliche it may sound, you are built for them. These tough times will make you better because it’ll reveal character traits you didn’t know that you had. Avoiding the trouble only stunts your growth…and life is about growth, right?
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