As much as I hate to admit it, I’m a bit of a reality TV fanatic. Here me out…I very rarely have drama in my own personal life and a girl has gotta get her fix somehow, right? Anyway, I watch Bravo from time to time (not nearly as much as I used to) and in the midst of me using the television for my background noise, I realized that the Bethenny Frankel show was on. Bethenny was discussing relationships with one of her friends as and when she said something that kind of made me wonder…did she really just say that on national TV?
Her friend was discussing how she wanted to date men with no kids (can’t blame her for that) but she loves Black men (she’s White) and if she wanted to date a man with no kids he had to be, and I quote, a “Whitie.” At first I didn’t really know how to digest her statement. Of course I was a tad bit offended that she put all Black men in the same boat by saying that they all pretty much have kids. I mean, I’m in a relationship with a Black man who doesn’t have kids…so I didn’t think her statement was fair.
My second problem was that she said it so casually on national TV. I know “reality” shows are supposed to capture a person in their natural environment, but let’s be real here. If a bunch of cameras are in my face and I’m subject to public scrutiny, I’m gonna be veeerrryyyy mindful of what I say. But then I thought…does she have a point???
I have been off the dating market for some time now, but it does seem like there are more Black men with children than there are without them. For some, that isn’t a problem, but I don’t think I could date a man with a child either. Of course if I felt like we would be a great match, I wouldn’t let that get in the way of our potential. I would just be very careful and mindful that I could possibly become a step-mom or mother figure to his child.
What do you think? Could you date someone with a child? Did the woman have a point about Black men? Let me know your thoughts!