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A lot of people are all for co-habitation and I must admit there are some real good reasons why it might be a good idea. But as usual, I’m here to be a party pooper and give you the real low down on why moving in with your significant other is a terrible idea!
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A lot of people probably won’t identify with what I’m about to say mainly because most people are in a relationship that has been moving way too fast from the start anyway but I’m going to say it. Moving in with your significant other is an all around bad idea and here’s why:
People put too much emphasis on if “they would be compatible living mates” and not enough on the actual relationship. It’s similar to what people do with sex. Some people claim that they have to know how good their partner is in bed or else the relationship can’t work. Because you can’t marry someone without learning to live with each other first or making sure you’re compatible in the bedroom right?
You’re actually worried about the wrong thing. If your relationship foundation is built on strong and similar principles then everything that happens after that is a moot point. Everything will be fine. When you learn to work hard at your relationship without living together that will carry over into your marriage when you finally move in. And also when it comes to sex, when that work is carried over into your relationship and you mix in your chemistry and passion, it is bound to work out. One thing my dad used to tell me was that sex with someone you love and care about is always better and he was right.
So basically it comes down to maturity with you and in your relationship. Are you really ready to settle down that you’re ready to try to move in? I don’t think it’s worth it. You’re not thinking this through. If you’re ready to move in together then, theoretically, you’re ready for marriage. But if you don’t think you’re ready for marriage until you move in to see what it’s like living together, then your relationship is already in trouble and in danger of moving too fast.
It’s more than a spiritual and biblical reason. It’s really a common sense and practical reason. And also remember, you have your rest of your life to be miserable and married. Take your time on making that big step because you’ll miss it when it’s gone.
That’s it for today. Don’t forget to cue the Sir Charles.