“Countdown To Baby” is a new series of blog posts that will document my pregnancy experience from my first trimester up until I deliver Baby Lo. To read more of this series, click here. *Author’s Note: This post was written in advance, updated each week and saved as a draft until I announced my pregnancy. I wanted to document my symptoms and my growing bump for my own personal memories, for other moms-to-be and for women who may suspect they are pregnant.
I never knew how stressful the first trimester of pregnancy could and would be. You’re constantly asking yourself, “Is this even real?” *blank stare*
Panic sets in with every new feeling or symptom you experience, panic eases then returns when the symptoms suddenly go away. You worry about whether or not you’ll miscarry, which makes you afraid to tell anyone you’re pregnant because you don’t want to “jinx it” and the list goes on.
I knew that I would document and share my pregnancy with my readers because it’s such an exciting journey and it makes for some new content that I’ve never experimented with. Also, I wanted to really represent for women of color because there’s a serious absence of non-white bloggers who share their pregnancies. As nervous as I am (I don’t think my nerves will ease until our little bean arrives), I’m going to start my series with what I experienced during my first trimester in terms of symptoms, cravings and milestones.
I didn’t know that I was pregnant yet but this is as and when I started to really suspect that pregnancy was the culprit for all the changes that were going on with me. I hadn’t taken a test but here’s what I remember happening to me and my body.
Symptoms: EXHAUSTION! Seriously, I couldn’t do anything that involved my eyes being open. I was sleeping all day everyday but during the night I suffered from insomnia. I had to babysit my youngest niece that week and I remember leaving her awake most of the time (she was 3…smh) and waking up in increments to check on her or feed her. I thought that I could’ve been depressed, I even asked someone if sleeping a lot was a sign of depression. I was also experiencing cramps in my “V area” or what is technically my uterus. It felt like period cramps but my period never came and I was simultaneously experiencing severe lower back pain. This week I remember becoming aware of my boobs, if that makes sense. Because I’ve had them since I was a tween, they were parts of my body that were just there and I just lived with them. But when I became pregnant, I suddenly felt like they were in the way.
Weight: Although I never weighed myself, I noticed that my face was getting slimmer.
Size of Baby: Baby Lo was only the size of a poppyseed. Do you know how small that is??? It’s amazing how something so small could cause so many changes in my body.
Cravings/Aversions: I had no appetite at all. I don’t think I was eating…only drinking water. Before I found out I was pregnant I do remember randomly wanting fruits and veggies for no reason – or so I thought.
Best Moment This Week: N/A
This is the week that I found out I was pregnant and had it confirmed at the hospital. I found out on July 29, 2016 after Dad had an “aha moment” and forced me to take a pregnancy test because I was in serious denial! I even took one right after the first positive because I thought the test was wrong. As soon as that one turned positive as well, I freaked out and sent a photo to my best friend to tell her the news and get advice.
Symptoms: Severe lower back pain, aches in my hips, exhaustion, no appetite, more emotional than usual, slight headaches, bloating, “V area” cramps
Weight: Haven’t been weighed yet
Size of Baby: Black peppercorn
Cravings/Aversions: Still no appetite
Milestone: Seeing my first ever positive pregnancy test and having my pregnancy confirmed by a doctor. Can you believe that I was still in denial after they did the ultrasound??
Best Moment This Week: Knowing that my body worked despite being told I’d need help conceiving and telling my closest friends, having their support and receiving my first pregnancy perk by Michelle – a bowl of my favorite fruits :)
Symptoms: Bloating, excessive saliva, cramps and back aches still happening but mostly at night now; symptoms began to come and go which made me worry about miscarrying
Weight: Face even more slim but haven’t gotten on a scale yet
Size of Baby: Blueberry
Cravings/Aversions: Soul food (dressing, greens, mac and cheese, fried chicken, etc.)
Milestone: Scheduled my first doctor’s visit
Best Moment This Week: Dad and I becoming more comfortable with the idea of being parents after the individual and collective freak-out moments we’d previously had.
Symptoms: Most symptoms seem to have subsided other than the exhaustion and occasional cramp or ache – this made me really worried but my worries were eased (for the most part) after our doctor’s visit. I also started having slight headaches at night, I’m not sure if it’s because I don’t eat a lot or if it’s due to hormone changes. I also had a few isolated breast pains the day of my doctor’s visit and after.
Weight: I’m actually down 7 pounds from my weight prior to pregnancy! According to my mom, I should enjoy this while it lasts.
Size of Baby: Raspberry
Cravings/Aversions: My appetite has picked up a little and I’m still craving home-cooked soul food and we actually cooked every day this week because I didn’t want fast food; starting to miss wine, Coke and sweet tea
Milestone: We had our first doctor’s visit and I was so nervous I couldn’t even complete my entry paperwork! Dad was acting silly the whole time, distracting me from my worries, and he was such a hit with the nurses that we got a special gift. One of my best friend’s – my Daana boo – suggested a baby name that we’re thinking will be our choice because Dad loves it so much.
Best Moment This Week: Hearing our sweet baby’s heartbeat! You can listen to it here.
Symptoms: Constant nausea (literally all day and night – the only relief I have is sleep); severe hip and back pains; sore boobs; dry lips, increased saliva (I’m drooling these days), heightened sense of smell and vivid, crazy dreams
Weight: Not sure, I haven’t gotten back on a scale
Size of Baby: Strawberry
Cravings/Aversions: I’m craving cheese grits, oranges and orange juice
Milestone: Pregnancy felt super real this week. I think this is the most real it has felt since I found out…I actually feel pregnant. Wow!
Best Moment This Week: Can’t remember (blame it on pregnancy brain)
Symptoms: I’m still sick ALL DAMN DAY and it’s very annoying because I can’t eat anything but I’m really hungry. I can’t stand up for a long time because I feel faint. If I could vomit I’d feel so much better I’m sure. I felt a few cramps in my uterus, a headache here or there and the veins have started to appear brighter across my chest. I’m a lot less emotional than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy and I’m not as tired either but I can still smell everything around me. My symptoms began to fade at the end of the week.
Weight: Still haven’t gotten on the scale.
Size of Baby: Green olive
Cravings/Aversions: I’m craving anything and everything sweet but in particular, Key Lime Pie. I also had a taste for a soft taco from Taco Bell.
Milestone: We went out to a neighborhood event in our city called Fondren First Thursday and it felt great to be out and about again instead of being cooped up in the house. The not so fun part? Watching everyone around me enjoying their beers and me having to drink water. :(
Best Moment This Week: Dad has been so great this week tending to my needs and helping out with other stuff that has become hard for me to do. Team work makes the dream work!
I started the week off with my first slice of key lime pie (yum!) and zero nausea! Praise God!
Symptoms: Canine sense of smell, gassy, excessive saliva (I’m literally drooling still), lips still dry, hair growing at record speed, terrible toothaches, lower back pains, visible veins across my boobs
Weight: Down a total of 10 pounds from my pre-pregnancy weight
Size of Baby: Prune or Kumquat
Cravings/Aversions: No aversions but craving shrimp and grits and the chicken, cheese and rice dish from Mexican restaurants
Milestone: Bought my first pair of mama jeans
Best Moment This Week: Having someone notice and “oooh and ahhh” over my itty bitty bump that really is mostly bloating LOL
Symptoms: Toothaches, period like cramps, visible veins, slight headaches, sinus/congestion issues, increased discharge (TMI, I know) and frequent urination
Weight: Same weight from last check-up
Size of Baby: Lime
Cravings/Aversions: My appetite picked up a little and I finally got my Mexican food and shrimp and grits!
Milestone: Morning sickness mostly gone! Yay!
Best Moment This Week: Hearing baby’s heartbeat again for the first time in almost a month and falling in love; Dad picked out a name for a girl since we already had a boy name.
Symptoms: Dizziness, cramps and severe lower back pain, nipples feel like they are on FIRE, increased discharge, terrible taste in mouth that lasts all day no matter what, constipation, frequent urination and my all day sickness returned :(
Weight: Gained two pounds, so I’m now 8 pounds less than my pre-pregnancy weight
Size of Baby: Plum
Cravings/Aversions: Still craving oranges
Milestone: Finally announcing to the world. Yikes!
Best Moment This Week: Being able to openly talk to other women who are expecting and it really helped to ease my worries
Symptoms: Very bad back pain, felt faint/weak, still have the terrible taste in my mouth, all-day sickness, more emotional, increased discharge, period like cramps, headaches
Weight: Haven’t been weighed again
Size of Baby: Peach
Cravings/Aversions: Craving vegetable soup, birthday cake, ice cream
Milestone: I can see the light at the end of the first trimester tunnel!
Best Moment This Week: Redesigning my blog in preparation for my parenting and pregnancy posts
I remember early in the first trimester how confusing everything that was happening to my body was and promising myself that I’d share my symptoms each week so that other women could have someone to relate to because the pregnancy apps that are available on the market are not 100% accurate and every pregnancy is different.