I pay attention to the comment sections sometimes more than the story or article itself because I enjoy reading what other readers think and I’ll chime in when I feel compelled to. But I’ve been noticing something, particularly when there is a story about relationships – some of the females who comment (sorry ladies, this one is on us) tend to have this attitude that they know what a person (in most cases a man) does every waking moment of his day.
Call me what you want, I think that it is the best way to set yourself up for disappointment.
We get it…you trust your man, you’ve known him for X number of years, you tell each other everything, yada yada yada. But let’s be real, there are some things about him that you will never know, contrary to your belief.
I’m not the bitter type, so this has nothing to do with men as a whole…I’m just sayin’. You can really apply this to anyone. Hell, I’ve done things that only I know about and I intend to keep it that way. Those things aren’t all bad, nor are they all good. Some of it can’t even be put into a category.
What sparked this post was a comment or two on an article by Clutch about whether or not we women feel insecure about our men watching porn (I personally don’t). The comments were along the lines of:
“…Such a sad world. I’m so glad my man doesn’t indulge in such.”
No shade to that particular commenter, but how can you be so sure? Because he tells you he doesn’t? Or is it because you’ve never walked in on him doing it? Oh. I’m sure that Kirk Franklin shocked his wife when he confessed his obsession with porn. She probably thought the same thing. He revealed in an interview that his addiction was a secret he had been hiding since he was 8 or 9.
I’m a person who wants to believe the good about everyone and understands how you can feel like you know everything about someone but I’m also smart enough to know that everything ain’t what it seems.
My point is —> Don’t be so quick to say what a person WILL or WON’T do because you are not around 24/7. You can believe and hope you’re right about them, but that’s about all.