You already knew this post was coming! It’s that time of year where most people reflect on their lives, businesses and relationships and set new goals or resolutions for how they can be improved.
I think I mention this every year but if you haven’t already seen it, you will see a lot of criticism of this trend across social media. People spend more time complaining online about others wanting to make goals and resolutions than they do working on themselves. I’m telling you now – forget them. Goal setting is a major key to success and choosing not to set goals for your life is not only irresponsible, it’s flat out dumb.
Yep, I said it.
It costs you nothing but a little bit of time and brainpower to set goals. If you’re stumped on why you should, here are a few benefits:
- Goals motivate you. (We all need motivation, right?)
- When you set goals, you accomplish more.
- Goals help you define and outline plans, projects, etc.
Personally, goals give me direction and they help to prevent that feeling of being lost or not knowing what I’m doing with my life or where I’m going. In other words, it eliminates those questions and thoughts that lead to stress, anxiety and depression. I was able to accomplish over 75% of the goals I set for 2016 because I had a framework for how I wanted my year to turn out and any stress I experienced was a direct result of me not keeping my eyes on the prize and losing my focus.
So, no, the year 2016 itself is not to blame for everything bad that happened. (I know you’ve seen the plethora of posts damning 2016 to Hell.) Sometimes the blame is on us…yet another reason why we should set goals and stick to them.
I want to share a few of my personal and career goals for 2017 with you. I’m only going to summarize them here but I have action items and deadlines along with how I can measure the success of these goals in my journal.
— My Personal Goals —
Continue growing in my relationship with Christ: My relationship with Jesus Christ is a beautiful one, I tell ya’. I’ve gone through so many different stages of growth, believing, practicing, learning and so on that I can confidently say that I know God, He knows me and we are very good friends. In 2017 I am looking forward to Him becoming my best friend. I want to keep growing in my relationship by getting more involved in my church than I already am and just giving God that time He deserves from me on a consistent basis.
Embrace motherhood to the best of my ability: I will become a first-time mother sometime in March 2017, according to my due date. This is by far the scariest thing I’ve ever had to prepare for. I’m more ready than I was when I first found out that I was pregnant but I’m nowhere near where I’d like to be. I think my fear of how becoming a mom will impact my life is the driving force behind all the anxiety I’m experiencing. I’m also terrified to be responsible for another life. My son will depend on us for everything and it’s scary because sometimes I still need my parents and I’m fully grown. So, my prayer is that I will be able to embrace this new chapter in my life and take it one day at a time.
Nurture my other relationships (family, significant other, friends, loved ones): I became a little distant from people during the second half of 2016. I distanced myself for a number of reasons. I felt that some relationships no longer served me, some relationships were fake, some were one-sided or they were all the things I just mentioned in one. I also distanced myself as and when I found out that I was pregnant because I became so protective of my life, my business and my energy. Needless to say the distance has given me a fresh, more unbiased perception of the relationships in my life and I want to nurture the ones that I feel are meaningful and conducive to me growing into the woman I strive to be. I want to show more love…more often and I want to make a positive impact on the lives of the people I love.
Do something that requires me to face a fear: I think child birth covers this but I want to face a fear in 2017. I have more fears than I’d like to admit but I hope to at least conquer one of them besides giving birth.
— My Career Goals —
Continue practicing how to say no: I can thank my unborn son for my ability to be firm in what I believe and what I require these days. Since I became pregnant, my career hustle has kicked into overdrive. I haven’t worked as hard as I’ve worked these past few months since I first started doing PR and blogging. Providing for my family has taken over as my main priority and whenever I’m approached about doing something for free, I have no issue turning it down – which is something I could never do before. This has extended to my personal life as well. If I’m not feeling it, I finally know how to say no without feeling bad. I really want to keep this up because it has helped me tremendously.
Start a new business venture: I’ve been working on a few new business ventures and I’d love to launch one toward the middle of 2017, after I’ve had my baby and gotten into the swing of life with a newborn. I’ve been silently putting together the pieces and it’s just about time to give it a try.
Grow my clientele: Toward the end of 2016 business really picked up for me in both areas of my career and I would like to keep the momentum going by adding more brands to my client roster.
Do a better job of self-promoting: I have no problem promoting someone else but when it comes to my own businesses, I get so timid about sharing what I do and offering my services to other business owners. I want to get rid of this mental block in 2017 and really promote myself like I should. I am so skilled and talented in public relations, writing and blogging and my creative ability still shocks me just as much as it shocks others. There’s no reason I should be afraid to showcase my skills and I’m going to do something about it!
Do something with my nonprofit: I’ve had a nonprofit organization for about 2 1/2 years and I’ve yet to do anything with it. I’ve outlined many different projects and initiatives but I haven’t followed through on any of them yet. I want to change that this year.
These are just a few of my goals for this year and I’ll be honest with you – this list is daunting because I’m going to have to really get it together and make time to do what it takes for all of these to actually come to life. Now I want to hear from you.
In the comments section below, share some of your goals for the New Year and let’s see if we’re working on any of the same things.
Cheers to 2017 bringing more blessings and opportunity than you can keep up with!